1.26.2008

habiba

today i (ally) had an experience that is one of those that i know i will cherish all my life. with tim's birthday coming up, i wanted to take some time and get a birthday gift for him so that is what i planned to do today. tim and silas were hanging out, and with my big coat and boots on, i took kai out to go to the bathroom before i left...

i always stop and talk to our dijornaya (pronounced dee-zjor-naya) when i go out. a dijornaya is a woman who keeps the indoor and outdoor entrances of the building clean and who sits in a room by the outside door of the building to watch who comes in and out. the room she sits in is about 6 feet by 4 feet, with a bed/bench, a hot water pot, and a tv. there is a tiny closet in there with a toilet. buildings that have dijornayas typically have 2, and they alternate shifts, a shift being two consecutive 24 hour periods. one of the dijornayas, habiba, and i have formed a really neat relationship. she wants to learn english and she is working hard on that, and even before i came back to moscow after silas was born, she asked tim if i would teach her english. so everyday when i am coming to or going from the building, habiba and i talk and work on her english and my russian, so through this we are getting to know eachother well.

habiba is from uzbekistan and she is muslim. she knows that we are christian. habiba, who is 32, and her husband live and work here in moscow, for the sole purpose of making money to send back to their family. their two children who are 11 and 13 years old live with habiba's mom in uzbekistan. habiba's husband is a street sweeper here in moscow (literally sweeping the street with a broom) and he makes $300a month and habiba makes $400 a month sitting in the room downstairs.

so habiba and i talked when i took kai out and i told her that i was going to go run some errands for tim's birthday. so when i went back down stairs after dropping kai off in our apartment, habiba was all dressed in her coat and hat and gloves...she smiled, and asked if she could go with me. so we spent a few hours walking arm in arm (as russian women do) looking for a birthday gift for tim, and buying some groceries. it was such a sweet time, that even as i write this i don't think words can do it justice. she has told her family in uzbekistan about me and tim, so she wanted us to take a picture that she can send to her family.


it's really neat to be aware of the fact that God is working in ways every moment that we may not be aware of. ministry opportunites are everywhere. even though i am not in a formal position at hinkson this year, besides being with silas and meeting with highschool girls, i have this incredible opportunity to form this realtionship with habiba and hopefully point her to the Truth. please pray with us for habiba and her family.

i took this picture a few minutes ago from our kitchen window...i'm not sure if this picture conveys how hard this snow is falling. it's really coming down.


and here's a pic of silas just because i can't resist!

1.12.2008

silas' new friend


we are so blessed to have some wonderful friends here in moscow. our friends, marat and ophelia, had their son, emil, just three weeks after silas was born. here, the boys are getting to know eachother. silas is so happy to have a new friend!!!

12.29.2007

the real american hero


the wiley boys are watching g.i. joe...one is beginning his childhood, the other reliving it...

12.13.2007

everyday

here are some pics of everyday life...

...silas sporting his hand knit boots purchased from a weaver on the street in istanbul...

...kai, ever protecting si...

a little bonding time in the evening!

Putting St Nick back in Christmas

This article came out of the latest issue of Relevant magazine, and we thought, worth posting. Enjoy ~

"It’s complicated. Like Keith Richards, the Santa legend is ancient, murky, and fairly disturbing. The cuddly version — grandfatherly St. Nick employing elfin labor to make toys for the children of the world — is only the latest in a long line of iterations. Santa has evolved.

The original Saint Nicholas was a Christian bishop in 4th-century Myra, geographically located in modern-day Turkey. As an adult, Nicholas gained a reputation as a generous man and the protector of innocents. These saintly traits largely arose from two horrific legends, both of which eventually led to his canonization.

The first is said to have occurred during a terrible famine. A local butcher, in need of something to sell, lured three unsuspecting boys into his shop. He killed the boys, chopped them into pieces, then stuffed their remains in a brine tub, hoping to cure them enough that he could sell the parts as ham. Nicholas was visiting the afflicted region at the time of the crime. Somehow Nicholas became aware of the butcher’s wicked deed. He visited the shop, uncovered the crime, and hastily reassembled the three boys. They came back to life, a bit salty but otherwise in good health. Despite the happy ending, it’s not exactly the kind of story that gets told at the Christmas Eve candlelight service.

In the second legend, a poor citizen of Myra had three daughters, but not enough money to afford a dowry for them. No dowry meant no marriage, and unmarried women in those days generally had one career choice: prostitution. The father was less than thrilled by this possibility, but too proud to ask for help. Nicholas discovered the family’s predicament the night before the first daughter came of age. Not wanting to embarrass anyone, he approached the family’s house late one night and tossed a bag of gold through an opened window. He did the same thing the night before the second daughter came of age. Both gifts were enough to cover the dowry, and both girls were spared the consequence of their poverty.

Before long, the third daughter was ready to marry, and the appreciative father wanted to find out who was behind the lavish gifts. When the time came, the father hid next to the window, hoping to catch their anonymous benefactor in the act. Nicholas learned of the father’s plan and improvised: Instead of lobbing it through the window, he dropped the third bag of gold down the chimney.

It wasn’t long before people began to suspect that the kindly bishop Nicholas, who had inherited money from his affluent parents, was behind these mysterious actions and a great many other secretive gifts to the poor. After he died of old age on December 6, 343 AD the people of Myra continued providing for those in need. In fact, they made a practice of giving gifts anonymously, always attributing them to the late Bishop Nicholas.

Before long, the bishop — who had worn liturgical robes of red and white — was canonized as a saint. Saint Nicholas became venerated as the protector of innocents, the patron saint of children, and a secret giver of gifts.

Of course, the traditional American idea of Santa Claus — along with his British/Canadian counterpart, Father Christmas — originates in the stories surrounding Nicholas of Myra. As far as saints go, St. Nick was especially venerated in the Netherlands, where he became known by the Dutch variant Sinterklaas. When the Dutch came to the New World and settled in New Amsterdam (today’s New York City), they brought with them the story of the now-anglicized “Santa Claus.”

And as is our custom, we Americans made the story bigger and gaudier, tacking on details from several unrelated sources. The karmic idea of rewarding good kids and punishing naughty children is rooted in old Norse folktales. The stuff about the reindeer and Santa’s sleigh got added once Clement Moore’s poem, “Twas The Night Before Christmas,” swept the nation in the early 1800s. Decades later, the magazine Harper’s Weekly commissioned several Thomas Nast engravings which depicted Santa in his workshop, reading letters and checking lists. The legend grew.

And here we are today. Kids leave cookies near the fireplace, parents are careful to preserve bootprints in the ashes, and Santa has transitioned into the 21st century. No longer does he oversee the building of simple wooden toys in his elf-staffed workshop. Nope. These days, little boys and girls — whether they’re good or bad, or rich or poor — probably expect Santa to drop a new iPod Nano in their stocking. Or, at the very least, the High School Musical 2 DVD. A wooden toy train? Unthinkable.

You have to feel for St. Nick. The legendary protector of children and distributor of anonymous gifts to the poor has turned into a victim of the worst kind of western entitlement and consumerism. Kids are more demanding. Chimneys are smaller. Families are leaving skim milk and low-fat cookies instead of the real stuff. It’s hard out there for a right jolly old elf. Somewhere deep within the folds of Santa’s suit, we’ve lost the story of St. Nick.

I’m always an advocate for stripping away the Santa Claus stuff at Christmastime and focusing on Jesus. But there’s a wide chasm between baby Jesus and Santa Claus, and maybe it’s a lot to ask a Christianity-averse culture to make that long journey from one side to the other.

Perhaps a better idea is to move them toward the middle by resurrecting Saint Nicholas of Myra. Annoyed with all the Jesus talk? Don’t want to celebrate Christ at Christmas? Fine. Then let’s celebrate someone else. Let’s talk about the 4th-century dude who kept little boys from grisly deaths and kept little girls out of the sex trade. Let’s talk about the revered religious figure who freed those in bondage, who restored life to the lifeless, and who refused to overlook the suffering of the innocent. Let’s talk about the man of God who gave out of his prosperity, who dispensed grace with no strings attached, who lived to bless those trapped in poverty.

Let’s talk about Saint Nicholas, the Bishop of Myra, Sinterklaas. Because when we peel away the red robes and silly hat and centuries of tradition, we might just see something, in the Santa legend, that we Christians recognize: It’s the Gospel. It’s the Good News. It’s the face of Jesus. It’s hope for the hopeless, liberty for the captives, abundance for the poor.

Maybe the distance between the North Pole and Bethlehem isn’t so great after all."

12.04.2007

life

life is good! so much life has been going on since i last posted, so i wanted to catch up through pictures. tim and silas and i are all back together here in moscow and we are all getting adjusted to life here. silas has gotten his nights and days straightened out and is growing and learning so much everyday...you can actually see him learning! we are really enjoying this time.

before silas and i left the states, we had a surprise birthday party for my dad (aka, "pop" or "most high bob")...here, dad and silas celebrate...

silas in his bassinet on the plane on the transatlantic flight over...he did incredible thanks to grace and favor and the white noise of the plane!

kai and silas meet for the first time...

and she has never been far from his side since then...she's a great babysitter! when he cries, she runs and stands by him until he's appeased to her satisfaction.

yeah...bath time!














it was such an indescribable blessing to have my mom fly back to moscow with me and silas and be here with us that first week to walk him in the night, help wash dishes, and experience a bit of our life here in moscow! to have her walk on the sidewalks we walk on and expereience some things here that we describe was invaluable. here mom and i are on red square on a cold moscow afternoon.

the green belt outside our apartment, now covered in snow...this it the walk that tim has to hinkson everyday and the area where silas and i walk.

11.04.2007

silas' first 3 weeks


we've packed a lot of life in silas' first 3 weeks here, and all is going well! on october 27, silas carried on mine and tim's tradition and did his first tulsa run (we started him slow, just a 2k this year). he did great and was at the finish of the 15k to cheer tim on through the finish line! silas even got his first finishers medal!















silas also has had his first introduction to the computer as i have been slowly trying to catch up on emails and be in touch. he does a great job of keeping me warm as i write!

we also had the blessing of some dear friends coming to visit and meet silas. amber and stephen and their beautiful daughter channing, came up from dallas to visit last weekend and amber brought her exceptional talent and portable photography studio to take some pictures of silas and me and tim. those will be coming soon. thank you amber!!! our friend jesse also came from colorado to see silas and run in the tulsa run with tim. it was a wonderful time.

on sunday october 28 we had a baby dedication at redeemer. it was a really sweet time with our family and our dear friends, joe and margie scruggs.

the paperwork process for silas to go back to moscow has gone remarkably smooth. we received his birth certificate in 6 days, and then we got his passport in less than a week. his letter of invitation (like a preliminary visa that the russian government requires) will be here on november 13, and then we can expedite his visa. i must say, his passport picture, taken when he was 2 days old is the cutest passport picture ever. and it's valid for 5 years! he looks so different already...

tim left tulsa and flew to moscow on november 1, and arrived safely on the 2nd. we are so grateful that we had 3 weeks together after silas was born before tim needed to go back...and we'll be close behind him! kai was overjoyed to greet him when he got back to our apartment and all is well there. tim is getting back into the swing of life in moscow and hinkson...and silas and my mom and i will fly out from tulsa on november 21 to join him. my mom is flying back with us to stay for a week and help with the details of traveling transcontinental with a 6 week old, and getting life set up in moscow again.

smiling in his sleep...what is he dreaming about?

10.16.2007

Happy Birthday Silas Jack Wiley!!!


on october 9, 2007, silas jack wiley took his first breath at 3:25pm. he weighed in at 7 pounds 15 ounces and is 20.5 inches long. one week late, i went into labor at 8:30am and a few hours later silas was in our arms. i (ally) am feeling great, and tim and i are just soaking up this time as best we know how. silas is beautiful, and teaching us so much already. he is truly amazing. from the moment he was born, he was and has continued to be so alert and attentive, paying such close attention to the details of the faces and noises around him. we are so grateful that we get to be a part of this miracle and have the opportunity to be a part of his life.

we have gotten to enjoy a few picnics in the park and in mom and dad's garden already...beautiful tulsa autumn! silas' first outing was a walk, and then a tasty meal at tin star because i wanted fish tacos!

what a miracle...where will these feet take him?

9.28.2007

any day now

we are excitedly awaiting silas jack's grand entrance to the world! for all of our faithful friends out there who are wondering what the latest status is, we are doing great, silas is doing wonderful and kicking like a soccer player, just not born yet. tim and i are loving this time together and are so grateful that we can be here in tulsa in this beautiful fall season (tulsa falls are the best!) with family and friends as we wait for silas. and we just got a new digital camera (thanks mom and dad for the early Christmas!) so there will be many pics to come! by the way, happy bday carrie sue! love you!

9.11.2007

Worship



I've been able to be involved with the student worship team at Hinkson, and it has been such a cool experience thus far. Before joining the worship team, I had the fifteen students write a brief paragraph defining worship and explaining why they wanted to lead. Here are a few really cool ideas on worship:

"Perhaps worship is the abandoning of saying, 'here I am. I am broken, I am nothing and I come to lift you up because I know, I feel deep within me that this is what I was made to do.'"

"I believe I am called to worship. When I praise and worship God I feel like I am doing what He has called me to do. When I praise Him, I feel like I am pleasing Him."

"I love to worship God. I love when God hears my prayers and shows His presence... One of the most fascinating facts about my name is that it means, 'Praise Jesus.' Now, looking at my name, I always think that the ability to praise God was one of the greatest gifts I have received from God."

8.31.2007

september

tim will fly to tulsa on september 13 and we are counting down the days! we have been so grateful during this time apart for the technology that we have at our disposal - phone, email, skype - that has been wonderful!

and we've both kept busy while we've been apart. hinkson is in full swing, and tim just wrapped up a wonderfully exhausting week there which included the first chapel, a full "leadership day" for students at hinkson, not to mention the planning and meetings and time with students that are a part of the everyday life there. tim is loving it and is feeling joyful as the details of his job are worked out and his ideas and dreams for the position are put into practice! he has gotten to spend some great time with some students in the last few days.
being with the students is a great reminder of why we are there! since all the students have come back to moscow after being away for the summer, tim has been busy!
i am doing great in tulsa and we just have a few more weeks until we meet silas face to face! i am feeling well and i have had a wonderfully rich time being with friends and family - if you are near tulsa and i haven't seen you yet, call me because i would love to see you! i imagine getting together will be easier on this side of silas' arrival than the other.

7.16.2007

friends

with our focus on the students here, we've discovered that something that is so important for our hearts and our ministry are the friendships we've formed here. it's great to have people walking through this with you who are literally walking on the same streets and experiencing the same weather and the same metro, who you can share a meal with and just walk through this with.
chris and liz and jane and james are in the picture to the right, and these are some friends who have been such a blessing to us here. chris and liz are here working with students on college campuses throughout moscow. we met in language school and they are some amazing and dear friends. jane and james are living and working in southern russia and we are really enjoying getting know them.

tim and i were also involved in a house church this last year. we met every sunday at our apartment and had a really rich expereince doing that. for our last gathering of the year before they all went back to the states,
we met at a park early one sunday morning and had a picnic and worshipped in nature. pictured here is josh, tim, daniel, adri, christiana, me and sarah. none of us were ready for this picture, but we thought, that's life, and this is a fun picture!

7.14.2007

astypalea, greece

the last week of june and a few days into july, tim and i had the opportunity to take a much needed and greatly enjoyed vacation in greece. it was a combination vacation/russian visa renewal trip and it was so good for our hearts. russian law requires that we leave russia once a year and get new visas at the consulate of our choosing, so hot greece was where we landed. we got to spend almost a week on an island called astypalea and refresh and relax before a new and exciting season of life starts for us. with our baby arriving this fall, and tim's chaplaincy role at hinkson swinging into high gear, we have a lot on the horizon and we are hopeful and excited about all that is coming.

astypalea is a small, butterfly shaped island in the agean sea that once was a haven to pirates. the locals who lived on the island lived in and around the castle pictured here, which was on the highest point of the island.

at our favorite restaurant on our favorite beach!!!

the castle at night ~ beautiful!

tim on top of the world

this is hora, the biggest settlement on the island, where most business and activity takes place. we would eat honey and bread at a little cafe many days here, which is pretty much the highest point on the island.

that's the small port village behind us

me and our boy on top of the castle over looking the agean sea. i hope he doesn't hold any resentment for all the places he got to travel to, but didn't get to experience!

beautiful beach!!!


a cairn is a pile of stone or rock that is arranged with a purposeful intent. most times you'll see these on backpacking or hiking trails to mark the way. those who place them are thinking of those who will come after and those who find them are trusting those who went before that this is the way to go. in the Bible in joshua 4, the Lord enabled the israelites to cross the jordan river and then He had people collect stones and make a cairn, or memorial to what the Lord had done there. God had people construct these cairns many other times in the Bible to mark what He had done. so tim and i made our own cairn on the beach of astypalea on the edge of the agean sea, to mark the end of this first year in russia, the beginning of our new life with our son and just to celebrate all that the Lord has done in this season.

on our way back to moscow, we flew through athens and had some time to hike up to the acropolis. the acropolis is visible from almost everywhere in athens and there is so much history there. it was over 100 degrees this day, so tim hiked all the way up and i waited a little below, under a shade tree with a frozen lemonade.

6.21.2007

2nd Lt. Crump U.S.A.F.

It was such a cool thing for our friend Ted Crump to come visit us in Russia. Ted just graduated from the Air Force Academy where he played football and learned a bunch of hard core, really cool military stuff. He also learned how to speak Chinese there which is so cool to see in action. Ted stayed with us for a week as we tooled around Moscow and St.Petersburg. He's such a good dude and so much fun to be around. Not only did he keep us laughing the whole time, but we got to learn more about how great of a man he really is. I'm glad men like him are serving our Country in the Military.

Good stuff at this "Uzbeck" resturaunt called Kish Mish

Not a fan of horses

Classic

Tavern in St.Pete's


6.17.2007

Goodness


Oh, the comfort
the inexpressible comfort
of feeling safe with another person.
Having neither to weigh thoughts
nor measure words,
but pouring them all right out
just as they are,
chaff and grain together-
Certain that a faithful hand
will take and sift them,
keep what is worth keeping
and with a breath of kindness
blow the rest away.

~Craik

5.30.2007

Summer in the City






Well, it's peaking somewhere in the low 90's farenheit here in Moscow, which is quite a contrast from the -18 we experienced 3 months ago. The sun is shining, the grass is green and most everyone is much happier now than in the Winter. The face of the city changes as the people get to thaw out as Spring progresses.

We're busyier now than ever, hanging with students and spending time at the school as much as we can. We're also trying to get out to some of the parks and see Moscow's summer beauty.

Ally's growing and looking amazing, as well as handling the heat like a trooper. Little Silas Jack is kicking like a little tornado and is already showing signs that he has his parents' sense of adventure. Right now he's 22 weeks along (in layman's terms that's a bit over 5 months)and is doing really well. We can't wait to mee him in Oct!

5.09.2007

Victory Day


Today Russia celebrates the 62nd anniversary of the Nazi's surrender to the Allies during World War II, or as Russians call it, "The Great Patriotic War." This holiday is monumentous for Russians and the entire city of Moscow shuts down for the celebration. Veteran soldiers don their uniforms and are celebrated as the greatest generation, much as they are in the States.

During World War II, over 25 million Russians were killed, military and civillian combined. Although this day is sweet for many, I'm sure it brings back the pain and loss of war for some. The Nazi's burned much of St. Petersburg and invaded Moscow as well, but did not advance into the heart of the city.

May 9th marks the first day of peace after the Nazi Party surrendered to the Allies on May 8th 1945.