carrot, egg, coffee bean

i've often wanted to write a post about the "ashan experience" so here it is. ashan is a massive grocery store here in moscow, of which there are two. think, 3 times the size of a wal-mart super center, prices comparable to a big discount chain in the states like wal-mart or super target, therefore it's packed with people. and i don't say "packed" lightly. sometimes feel sardine-like in there. you are constantly and in the same moment running into someone with your shopping cart and being run into. and this isn't in a particular season or time of day - it is from open to close of the store. and since all the wheels on the shopping carts swivel, they can roll sideways too, which creates an added interesting dynamic. (i should say here that all wheels should swivel but that isn't always the case, like yesterday when i got a shopping cart with 2 bad wheels - now that is a work out!)
it is an extreme adventure. but the prices are such that if you can bear it, it is worth it about once a month.

a few things ashan has taught me...


1. don't wear my jeans with the buttons on the back there...they get hooked on other people's carts when i am bumped in to...
2. a smile goes a long way - the scowl on their face doesn't necessarily reflect their inside...
3. smiles usually are contagious and span languages
4. don't take yourself too seriously
5. make your grocery list according to the layout of the store because it will take you an hour to get back to the other side if you forget something
6. get in line about one hour before you want to be on the other side of the check out counters
7. be more flexible
8. an ipod makes a wonderful companion at ashan
9. take deep breaths
10. adapt

i really appreciate ashan and my experiences there.

i heard a great analogy yesterday, that i really want to carry forward with me. this takes me back to the subject of this post; carrot, egg, coffee bean.

the moral of the story is, be a coffee bean.

the rest of the analogy is this...

a carrot, when placed in hot water (the water symbolizes a stressful experience, environment, or pressure) goes from a firm state to mush.

an egg, when placed in hot water (still, that certain difficult environment) goes from a fragile place to hardened.

a coffee bean, when placed in hot water, works within its situation, becomes better, adapts, and what is inside the coffee bean changes its environment.

ashan reminds me to be a coffee bean.

thank you

today is veteran's day (and yesterday was the usmc's 233 birthday). thank you to all the veterans out there who chose to sign up and serve. i am grateful.

two of my favorite veterans...

my husband.

this picture was taken at the marine corps museum in san diego in 2005. on the tv monitor behind tim was a slide show of pictures that marines had brought back from iraq. that particular picture that is showing is a painting that some people who aren't fans of america painted on a wall...that building it was painted on became "camp" for certain battalions of marines as they cycled through that area in iraq...by the time tim got there, the marines who had been there previously "re-designed" the painting you see here, expressing what they thought about the original. tim has the "after" picture, but it was neat for us to see the "before" and know that tim had been right there.

my dad.


i have distinct sweet memories as a kid of meeting my dad at the airport, him having just arrived back from active duty. he's the best looking man in navy dress whites, ever.

tim and dad, i love you both. thank you for signing up and serving.

fall on noyvecheremushkinskaya, dom 50

we are getting to experience the most beautiful fall here that we have ever seen! sure, it's middle-of-the-night dark by 5pm these days, but the days lately have been in the high 30's, crisp, blue skies, gorgeous. the other falls we have had here have been a bit shorter, so this long fall has given the leaves a chance to change outside, and we are all loving the colorful palate!

a busy season for me and tim has ended (retreats every other weekend for 8 weeks and both or one of us leading other events on the in between weekends), and although we still have plenty going on, our pace has slowed a little bit which is a welcome change.

tim is in the midst of "no shave november" at hinkson (guys only)...10 other students and staff have joined him on this male bonding experience, and they are taking weekly group pictures to chronicle the event.

bella notte is this weekend, too. bella notte is a twice a year musical that the students at hinkson put on. this falls bella notte is a musical montage walk through the history of music in the united states...and tim is playing djembe in it!
and i have the joy of being with silas and other friends during the days lately, and with high school girls everyday after school - it's a honor to get to walk through these season of these girls lives with them.

last weekend was the hinkson fall festival, and it was a very fun time. we had to have the pumpkin patch inside this year because last year when it was outside many of the pumpkins froze and were unusable. silas was not sure what to think of the 60 pound pumpkins at first, but he warmed up to them...

now that it is getting colder, silas is out and about in his snow suit, learning to maneuver in all that insulation...it is pretty funny watching him shuffle about in it.

silas and kai and i outside our apartment...its about 4:30pm in this pic.